Once upon a time, women were women: feminine, classy, pin up even.. but not vulgar. Once upon a time, our icones were named Marilyn or Jackie… but not definitely not Kim.
I did not read anything about “Da Selfie” until yesterday. But (gross) news travel fast and far, so I could not escape the debate of the infamous Kardashian nude selfie.
My first reaction was “why would I ever care about it?”. A few seconds on the web proved that I was probably the only one asking myself this question. I was totally amazed by the extend of the polemic. All US TV are on it, the radio, the press, internet is flooded with pictures and billions of comments. If you google “Selfie Kardashian”, you end up in the most vulgar photo gallery.
Mums of 2016, do we really have to take a stance for one of those 2 caricatures?
Motherhood comes with some obligations and etiquette. There are the things you do when you are single, and the ones you do when you are a Mum. Whether we are ready to assume it or not, we become models. Our children are looking up at us.It is not always easy, I bet we all had those times when we feel we can rock and roll it all like in the prehistoric times B.C. (Before Children). There are times I am feeling that the pressure is so very high and I am freaking our not to be good enough. But I constantly thrive to become who I needed when I was younger. Children are the best imitators. So let’s give them something great to imitate!
I can see how my kids not only hear everything that I say, but also mimic everything that I do. It’s our responsibility to teach them that there are far better options in life than being a pathetic narcissistic nor an overstressed (and stressful) SAHM ?
Once upon a time the women icons were beautiful. They had different lifestyles but they were aware of their influence.
Marilyn.. the sexy, the ultra feminine, the epicurean who only needed “Champagne and good food to be in heaven and in love“. Look at Marilyn’s shapes! not the kind of woman who would feel guilty because she missed her yoga class or should have ordered mineral water instead of another Cosmo.
Am I more of a Jackie? .. At least I am a brunette, and I like to believe I am an intellectual. Plus I love wearing shades, and .. et voila! Did you know that when she was a bit stressed, she would go sailing or fox hunting, and that she could spend countless hours practicing yoga. I would rather make a nice cup of hot tea .. and spill it on the lap of whoever is bugging me. I guess I am a bit too impulsive and direct for the role?..
But I HAVE much more than IG followers, diamonds and bubbles; because I AM more:
I love and I am loved in return. I am free to be myself and I do trust my friends. I am not my status in society. I am not how other people perceive me. Diamonds are not my best friends, but my thoughts, my attitudes and my beliefs are.
I believe that women aren’t beautiful as they look, as they walk or as they talk. They are only beautiful as they love, they care and they share. This is what I want my daughter to know and feel with all her heart.
(Still, just make sure you have (at least) a couple of Wonderbra, packaging always matters!).