Estelea's Blog

French proud Mum and wife, restless explorer and doer freshly landed in Hanoi. One Attila in each arm, I am exploring the “kids friendly” corners of the region, while trying to keep some room for Me.

Best remedy for empaths – delivered by the Dalai Lama

If you tend to be hyper empath like me, and have a hard time listening to the news without feeling depressed, there is no better fix than the words of the Dalai Lama:

Empathy is simply experiencing another’s emotion. Compassion is a more empowered state where we want what is best for the other person.

If we see a person who is being crushed by a rock, the goal is not to get under the rock and feel what they are feeling. It is to help to remove the rock“.


Those words touch me so much that they have become part of our family intentions. They totally changed my way of apprehending the news. As much as possible, I try to rewire my brain to take the “Dalai Lama’s way” and ask myself:  What can I do to help?

There is always a way. Even a word or a smile is an action, and can make a difference. Picking up a trash that’s not ours in the street will not solve the global warming dramatic issues, but it will certainly move this huge rock a little bit in the right direction.

Easier say than done .. During our last holidays, we did a lot of beach cleaning and truth is, the task at hand was demoralizing. But the moment we swiched our brain to “moving the rock”, we felt empowered. Soon enough, the enthousiam of my kids dragged many other tourists into our trash hunting. My son was so proud of “offering a clean space for all the fishes and their friends“. We were all doing something positive instead of being a passive complainers. Even the staff of the hotel eventually joined us (the French side of me had doubts about their initial motivation, but what matters is that they were part of the team, eventually!).

In my next yoga classes, I’ll prompt my students to think about a rock they could help removing. What will yours be?


6 comments on “Best remedy for empaths – delivered by the Dalai Lama

  1. lexklein
    May 10, 2019

    I love this post and its message so much! In fact, I have just attached a link to it on another blog talking about plastic waste. (

    All we can each do is try to move the rock a little each day – through our actions, a small kindness, good words, etc. Thanks for the nudge to always stay positive and proactive!

    • estelea
      May 20, 2019

      Thanks for the link! What a comprehensive post !
      The plastic ban is gently starting in our side of town. No straw, no bags. It’s a very expat hipster thing for now but it’s expanding 🤞🏻

  2. Snow
    May 13, 2019

    Excellent!!! What a great example you’re showing your kids, too

    • estelea
      May 20, 2019

      Thanks a lot 🙂 it really works both ways though, they are so into plastic banning that we’d better take our own bags when we go shopping – or we get a real fuss at the cashier if we have to ask for a plastic bag !

  3. Manny
    May 27, 2019

    I love this post Estelea, very moving and so happy to hear the children were so proud of what they had achieved. Proud moment for you too I’m sure! We are trying to reduce our plastic waste too and my son finds new ways of telling me how/why I should recycle. 🙂

    • estelea
      May 27, 2019

      How sweet of him ❤ this generation is already so aware of how to protect the environment. They are already the ones teaching us aren't they ? 😉

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